Indian Men, Marriage and the 21st century!!!

July 11th 2005:

This is something that comes from the very core of my heart! I need an answer to this important question... Just what is it with Indian Men, Marriage and the 21st century? It feels like either it could be Men and Marriage... or Men and the 21st century! It really is confusing as to why guys with the proper attitude would not want to get married (at least for now!) and the ones who want to get married are such pathetic losers...

I am not an Amazon but neither am I the Sati-Savithri types wanting to tow the husbands line. Looks like I am being asked to be one of the two and feels like there is no middle ground. But what I cannot fathom for the life of me is why there cannot be a middle ground? What is so worng in wanting to have a equal relationship? What is so difficult about forming a team and working together? Why should there be pre-conditions like you should quit working after the kids arrive (for heaven's sake i havent even said yes to u...get a grip on ur senses!!)or you should relocate (i mean seriosuly are u deranged? wouldnt these things figure later on?)...or the best of the best qualifers "i have to check with my folks" ...come on, u want to get married...if u cant make a simple decision as to when u are going to meet a girl on ur own...it is just a question of ensuring your calendars are free...what will u do later on in life???? and why would it be so bad for me to question that?????

Why dont these men understand that the most important thing is actually trying to find out if at all the two people are compatible on a basic level...can the two carry on a conversation? are they willing to lend an ear to each other? are they willing to concede that there are differences in opinion but when it comes down to making a decision the other person is balanced enough to talk to about it? whether or not the basic interest is there in both to make this worthwhile? Do the values they have match?

I mean there is so much to an institution like marriage. Why would anyone try to make it a business proposition? I have had such funny (well, they are funny to me now...at the time i would have given anything to be able to wring the bloddy creatures neck!) experiences which i am sure will continue for sometime now.....

Read on to find out the weird ways in which people's minds work and most importantly how some Indian men react to the phenomenon called Marriage! Ofcourse, needless to say most guys who have read this piece have got back to me asking why I am launching this tirade against men. have i forgotten my dad is a guy as well? well, to all those idiots who cannot understand this simple concept...i am NOT launching a tirade against ALL men folk... merely against those sore losers who think that they have attained moksha because of a simple reassignment of DNA when they were born...in simple english...just because they are men... My dad was and is the one of those wonderful men who chose to support his wife in her decision to work (some 33 years ago when this concept was still fairly new) and till date helps out in the kitchen... So yes, it only makes matters worse when i meet supposedly "21st century" cool dudes who didnt think twice before living a "21st century" life while single...but just want a 6 century BC wife. will not be surprised if these "specimens" want their wife to remain 6th century BC while they lead on their 21 century lives...